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Brad + Steve’s non-traditional black and white wedding | USA

Real Weddings / November 5, 2014

At F* Yeah, we like to showcase couples that are true to themselves and their stories through beautiful imagery AND by pushing the boundaries of what a wedding is ‘supposed to be’.

For this reason, Brad and Steve’s wedding has a little special place in our hearts. They created a gorgeous wedding to celebrate their love with elegant non-traditional interpretations. “We got ready together, had a bachelor party together etc.. there were no surprises.” The boys getting ready together made for some very intimate moments being captured by photographer Cassandra Zetta.

“We also wanted the ceremony and reception to be very non-traditional. Neither of us walked down the aisle. Instead we both followed our wedding party in from either side and met in the middle.”

A lot of the decorations and styling were hand crafted. Their main theme was masculine that included black and white “with a touch of burnt orange”, inspired by the changing foliage outside.

“During the reception we greeted guests as they came in, and there was no first dance or introduction. Just about the only traditional thing we did was cut the cake. We chose this route so neither of us seemed like a bride.”

Brad and Steve had these lovely words to say about their photographer: “Aside from having an amazing personality, the best thing about her was she understood how to pose us and make us look natural. She understood that neither of us wanted to look like the bride, and perfectly balanced us together. She was also very accommodating and easy to work with. She did a flawless job!”

About Brad + Steve

The boys met online and have been together for 2.5 years and their proposal went a little something like this: “We both chose to propose. First, Brad put on a suit, had our favourite song playing, and was waiting on our back porch. It was after I (Steve) had a long shift at work, and thought Brad had already left. When I was going to let the dogs out he came around the corner, said a few sweet words and got down on one knee. It was simple but sweet. Steve was a bit more creative. When I (Brad) came home from work one day there were clues all around the house with very sweet sayings on them. After about 6 clues it led me to the park where he had candles lit up the stairs. I followed them up and he was upstairs (in the cold) with a few more candles around him and got down on one knee. It was extremely romantic.”

Tips from Brad + Steve

“Well, for one, remember this day is about you and your partner. Don’t worry about what everyone else will think. Anyone who chooses to attend is there because they support you both, and will not be uncomfortable with seeing you act like a couple. Also, don’t shy away from letting your vendors know right away it is a same-sex wedding. It is not legal in our state and doesn’t happen often so the first question I asked all of our vendors is if they had any issues working with a same sex couple. We got lucky and got some really great people to work with. Even got a freebie once or twice because they wanted to show their support. If you ask them up front, there are no surprises or dirty looks or uncomfortable vendors. If they are uncomfortable they will tell you, or you will be able to hear the hesitation in their voice. If that’s the case just move on; no harm, no foul. Lastly, if you want something, and can afford it, do it! This is your wedding day and you have fought so hard to get it. Harder than most. Oh, and don’t forget to enjoy it!”

Credits please…
Photographer: Cassandra Zetta | Attire: Men’s Wearhouse | Cake: Jill Chalfant Cakes | Catering: Jeff Thomas Catering | Jewelery: Fred Meyer Jewelers | Officiant: Emily Morgan | Photobooth: Shutter Booth | Stationery: Poeme | Venue: Alms Park | Wedding Planning: Premier Park Events

Lara Luz
Lara Luz
Lara is a bit of dark horse. She is a wedding photographer, a video editor, a motorcycle riding, hot chocolate connoisseur who was once a ballerina. WOAH?! Yeah, you heard me. And @ F yeah, no one really knows what she does. Maybe she looks after all the social media, marketing and being that final swing vote on large F* Yeah decisions. Maybe she’s the king of the music playlists and maybe she’s the one that always manages to look busy even when she’s really actually doing nothing. Maybe.

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on November 8, 2014

Great pic!

on November 5, 2014

This was one of my all time favorite weddings! Everything from Steve and Brad walking “up the aisle” together to the beautiful theme. As many weddings as I have attended/ officiated, the black and white them was something I had never seen and was stunning! The cake was gorgeous! Steven and Brad blew me away with all the little details. The photographer, venue, and catering will are all highly recommended.

    on November 5, 2014

    I completely agree, I wasn’t able to tag you in the post sorry, fb being its usual painful self. :/

on November 5, 2014

I think too, a few cis couples could take some pointers, making marriage less about ownership and more about equal partnership.

    on November 5, 2014

    yeah being true to yourself both individually and a couple is important. Create your own traditions that make sense to you and keeping what’s important to YOU on the day is key. It makes for a more relaxing, stress free day that turns into a cool, fun party with family and friends.

on November 5, 2014

Naww, made me cry a bit! Just wonderful and perfectly suited to a masculine and very handsome pair.

on November 5, 2014

Brad is my cousin who I grew up extremely close to. I love Steve to death and welcome him to our crazy family! This wedding was by far my favorite! I brag to everyone about how much fun it was! From the amazingly awesome 90’s music to the midnight arrival of donuts with vanilla ice cream…. It was the best night! My favorite part was seeing two families celebrate this wonderful couple. Brad and Steve have a very loving and supportive group of friends and family and I’m so blessed to have shared this memory and witnessed this wonderful unity of love! I love you both and wish you a lifetime of happiness as your love grows!

    Lara Luz
    on November 6, 2014

    Ummmm…..midnight arrival of donuts with vanilla ice cream? How did they not tell us that? That’s totally awesome.

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