If it were up to Deanna and Rikki, they would have gotten married in Rikki’s hometown on top of a mountain but since that just wasn’t possible, they did their best to create an atmosphere to reflect their love of outdoors in their gorgeous little backyard modern rustic wedding.
“With a total of 15 guests (plus our two sweet pups), we walked from our house to the Capitol Building where we were surrounded by our closest friends and family who witnessed the best day of our lives. In the shadow of the Supreme Court, we reflected on the institution of marriage and our gratitude for being granted this right. It felt important to us to take a moment of silence to acknowledge the many couples who are not yet afforded the chance to marry. We wrote our own vows (that were eerily but unsurprisingly similar) and exchanged rings on which our respective fingerprints are engraved.”
With no formal bridal party and only 15 guests (plus two dogs!) the wedding was a friendly affair of laughter and tears. Deanna and Rikki asked each guest to write their own toast that would double as their “guest book”.
“We heard the most touching, genuine, and heartfelt words from the people we love the most. After the tears subsided, we gathered around the fire pit, made S’mores, and laughed even more. It was the perfect day.”
They sewed their own placemats, table runners, welcome sign and even made bandanas for their puppies from burlap, hand stamping everything with the letter “C” for their new chosen last name together – Cor, which is Latin for “heart”. Mismatched plates from Goodwill brought a homey and vintage feel along with flowers from the markets and neighbours’ gardens, while globe lights and white candles lit the whole arrangement.
“Doug was our dream photographer. We found him through a recommendation of a recommendation and it was definitely fate. His laid back personality combined with his artistic eye is astounding. We needed to find someone who was not just comfortable with a same-sex wedding but could also recognize the love and connection we share. He did this and more. He is an incredible artist and a wonderful person.
“Mike and Deb of Blue Dog BBQ were incredibly welcoming and responsive. Being country girls, we know good BBQ and they did not disappoint. The food was amazing! It was an added bonus that Mike and Deb were both so supportive of our marriage.
“Travis Crytzer at Tie the Knot DC (officiant) – Travis was perfectly considerate, intentional, and personal. The way he wrote our ceremony captured our love and our passion for equality with words we would have struggled to replicate. It was even more touching that he became emotional as we did. To have the person who legally marry us understand the significance of our union is something we will never forget.”
“Our best tip for couples who are planning to commit their lives to one another is to remember why they’re taking this step. It’s easy to get caught up in the tradition, details, and working to please everyone else. Focus on each other and your lifetime together. With this, you cannot have anything but the perfect day.”