Two women, Desiree (in the black dress) and Erica, stumble upon each other’s profiles on OkCupid, check out each other deets, chat for a few weeks then one of them heads on vacay overseas and state that they should just be friends. So how did these two end up engaged? She had her at Facebook check-ins… and intended help from Lady Gaga.
But first a little about the girls from their photographer, Lola Snaps Photography…
“They are two of the sweetest people you could imagine meeting and with vibrant personalities that you just can’t get enough of! Desiree and Erica are both teachers contributing to their local community, preparing the youth of our future. In Erica’s spare time she is a LGBT writer, activist and advocate, ANDDDD they are both freelance writers at Tagg Magazine.”
Desiree further explains…
“A couple months later, I see this gorgeous girl standing by the pool table at Phase 1 [nightclub]. I followed her around the pool table, paid for a few games, and eventually asked if I could add her on Facebook. She told me we already were friends on Facebook and then it hit me… it was her! Since we had never met in person before, I had no idea.”
“It wasn’t until weeks later that she felt comfortable enough to tell me that she had actually come to Phase 1 that night to see me; that she felt drawn to me and knew I’d be there thanks to my incessant check-ins on Facebook. The attraction was mutual because as soon as I saw her, I was instantly attracted to her too. We have been inseparable ever since.”
“We both wanted to be able to propose to one another, so we actually had two proposals. Desiree proposed to me on the Phase 1 float in the middle of the Capital Pride Parade. Although Desiree proposed first, I still proposed to Desiree at the Lady Gaga concert in Atlantic City. After Gaga missed the 8 foot long banner I made — which I asked Gaga to help me propose — I waited until the encore performance of ‘Gypsy’, got on one knee beside the piano stage and sang the bridge of the song to Desiree, who was moved to tears. Because our phone died, a lovely couple videotaped it for us. Now Desiree has a tattoo of ‘Gypsy Life’ and the date I proposed, June 28th 2014.”
“We are having a religious ceremony, opting for Episcopal marriage rites and blessings. Our faith is very important to us, and taking our vows in front of God, friends and family is important to us. We know that so many people have fought for the right of LGBT to marry and we are going to respect their legacies and make our own.”
“Erica and I went to a tattoo shop in DC after our engagement and got matching equality signs because equality is something that we strive for, and something we believe all members of the human race deserve. We have dedicated our careers and our lives’ work toward bridging equitable gaps, not only in the queer community and LGBT community, but also in the urban education community.”
“Erica’s red writing tattoo is Tibetan for ‘impermanence’. Buddhism is important to her. The concept of impermanence is important in guiding our understanding that we as humans are in a constant state of impermanence. The acceptance of this concept helps us find inner peace and guides us to better understanding of reality and our time here.”
“She made us feel extremely comfortable. Not only does she explicitly make it a point to advertise that she’s LGBT supportive, but also she’s got such a calming spirit about her. When we showed up to the National Mall in DC, Lola said ‘just be yourselves… just walk around like you’re a couple spending a day at the mall and we will go from there.’ It worked. Our pictures organically capture our love, and that’s all I could ever ask for.”
As a gay wedding blogger, I read a lot of information on weddings, the LGBTIQ+ community and couples’ relationships. But this short and sweet piece of relationship wisdom is… perfect:
“As a couple, we never want to fall out of love. We see relationships crumble around us every day, so we are committed to making sure that we build each other up.”
Boom! Support and build each other up, that’s how to relationship.
Thank you and congrats Desiree and Erica xx.