Back in 2008, my partner and I decided to get hitched in Australia, where we reside in. In case you didn’t know, in our country, marriage is legal only “between a man and woman with exclusions to all others”.
The planning of our wedding was a pretty significant time in our lives, a time which was filled with mushy goodness and some not so goodnessnesses. We thought that being the two-thousands and all, most wedding vendors would not have battened an eye lid to take on our business slash money. But as we discovered, we had to tread lightly, even when submitting a “wedding enquiry”. We were also finding that most of our web searches had to include “gay friendly” or “same sex” – which seemed weird to us that this was the the only way that we’d know if that particular vendor was gay-friendly or not.
Planning a wedding or celebration can be very time consuming and emotionally straining, but what a lot of people don’t know, is that LGBTIQ couples often have an added anxiety to their planning mix when discussing their events with vendors. Especially if they live in a city or country where being lesbian, gay, trans, inter or queer and wanting to marry is illegal.
It can be quite heartbreaking to receive negative responses, or lack there of, from vendors on what should be a very positive and exciting experience. And it was also very disheartening to be in the middle of a venue visit and have the venue staff end the conversation with “you let us know if you’d like to go ahead…” as they turn their back to you and walked away…mid sentence!
Unfortunately, half of the responses that we received from vendors were negative. A sad statistic, but these were the facts. What most people don’t realise is that a big majority of LGBTIQ couples who are planning a wedding will be hesitant to contact a vendor if a vendor’s website or social media does not appear to be gay-friendly. For all we know, that particular vendor may be desperately wanting to attract more LGBTIQ clientele, but their sites are simply not saying this.
A large percentage of LGBTIQ couples will choose gay-friendly vendors compared to less obvious gay-friendly vendors even if they are cheaper. This is predominant because couples don’t have to ask the awkward question AND having a warm and welcoming vendor who will not treat a couple negatively, based on the couple’s identity, is priceless.
Here at F* Yeah Gay Weddings, one of our main purposes is to provide you with LGBTIQ friendly vendors who:
1. Proudly show it on their websites/social media by displaying real (LGBTIQ) weddings and content OR
2. Actively show that they support marriage equality via banners, buttons or flags
So, I am super duper, with a cherry on top, proud to introduce to you two vendors that are very gay-friendly. These guys are as passionate about marriage equality as we are and I could not be more delighted to share them with you.
One of the first things that you see on their website is their “We support marriage equality” button, smack bang on their first page! In addition to this, their Facebook page states “LGBTI friendly: all love is welcome here”. Love that! Needless to say that these guys are very gay-friendly and are, as they tell me, more than happy to shout it from the rooftops.
Cartamodello Papeteire are magic makers of wooden stationery. Their wooden stationery is digitally printed on 100% sustainable wood and makes for awesome and unique pieces. We recently worked on a styled shoot with these folks and we received nothing but love and support from them! They are based in Brisbane, Australia, and they ship all over this wide and wonderful world.
Grain & Co. are another company that create magical wooden pieces with their their cake toppers such as “I love you like zombies love brains” or “for like ever” or their famous marquee light-up cake topper. This husband and wife duo make the most awesomest toppers (as well as other glorious party supplies) you’ll have the privilege of feasting your eyes on.
As well as being immensely creative, they too are a very gay-friendly business. They have a handy tab on their website (under wedding toppers) entitled “Same Sex” to accommodate to the LGBTIQ couples, yay! While their portfolio is still building, they can of course make to order. So should you desire your names as cake toppers or on other products, they can certainly do that.
Their unique and hand-crafted toppers, flags and other party supplies are made from eco-friendly materials, making them that extra little bit more lovely. Grain & Co. are based in Sydney, Australia, and they too are happy to ship worldwide.
Along with these two outstanding businesses, there are various gay-friendly vendors throughout the world that we’ve come across. We’ll be sharing their deets with you via our vendor directory listing soon, so keep your eyes peeled.