We hope that one day very soon a “gay wedding” will be less of a novelty and be simply seen as a “wedding”. We know it can be tough finding gay-friendly vendors who don’t make us feel awkward, but luckily there are actually heaps of (heterosexual) vendors who are super keen to work with us. Here’s the opinion of one of them.
You’re not bound to decades of same-sex marriage tradition, you can create your own…
I met with a same-sex couple recently and I was so excited, these two were going to be my first, my first real same-sex ceremony! “Consider your same-sex- ceremony cherry popped”, I excitedly told myself on the way to my office. We sat down and I was so excited because sometimes heterosexual couples feel so obliged to follow all of these weird traditions from days gone past, and these two, they could do whatever they wanted.
So I told them the good news “Because your wedding ceremony won’t contain any legal stuff, you’re completely liberated to have your wedding and do whatever you want!” I was soooo excited.
Their faces were stunned.
This was the fatal moment where these two kids in love found out that same-sex marriage wasn’t legal in Australia yet. Lord knows how they thought otherwise, but I had just broken their hearts and they left with chins to their chests deciding that their wedding was canceled. They wanted a real wedding – my heart was broken too.
But the good news I had for them is applicable to you too: you can do whatever you want at your wedding, gay or not. You’re not bound to decades of same-sex marriage tradition, you can create your own and if it’s good, it will no doubt be copied and pinned on Pinterest for decades to come.
So here’s how you both can work out what’s right for you, what to leave out, what to add in, how to make your wedding your own:
And one day when the world gets straightened out [pardon the pun] and same-sex marriage is legalised globally, we’ll already have some “founding fathers” of the same-sex wedding tradition and same-sex marriages will be better than any others.