Loren and Marita met through the writing and poetry community in Seattle in 2010. Marita was actively involved in multiple organizations as a teacher, facilitator and performance poet in Bent: A Queer Writing Institute and Seattle Spit, a long-running monthly Queer Spoken Word Show and she was the weekly host at the Seattle Poetry Slam. Loren participated in several writing groups and attended poetry slams and performances and after a few months of being in community, Marita approached Loren and asked “So when are you going to take me out?” and so it began.
For their proposal, Loren crafted an elaborate map of their first year together. He printed pictures of the first time they met each other’s family and friends and pinned them at the specific location that event took place. He marked events like their first kiss, the first time they said I love you to each other, and he also marked the place that he gave Marita her ring – which was the restaurant they were parked near. Inside, Loren told Marita sweet things about looking forward to building a home and a life together and gave her the ring. A couple weeks later, they were headed to Loren’s parents’ home and Marita decided to have Sophie, Loren’s family’s chocolate lab, help out with her proposal. Marita wrote two top ten lists:
She secured the top ten list scrolls with Loren’s ring and placed them in a pouch on Sophie’s collar and sent her to find Loren. Loren started petting Sophie, discovered the pouch and they sat on the front stoop while he read the lists and put on the ring. Sophie and the two other dogs, Chico and Bruiser seemed very happy that he said yes!
“Our colors were red & turquoise. Red has always been Marita’s favorite color, and that color combination is so fresh and sweet. Those colors also represent us as a couple. Marita is bold, performative and loudly passionate. Loren is steady, calm and sharp. We asked guests to arrive in garden party attire, whatever that meant to them. We have a fashionable group of friends and family, so we loved seeing what dapper duds they chose to wear.”
“My dress was one of the first I tried on, my friend Jenelle picked it out for me at I Do Bridal in Wallingford, Seattle. It had a lot of personality and presence to it, definitely a statement dress. I decided to get it altered to be a slight high-low hem because I wanted to show off my bright floral peep-toe heels and because that hemline felt like the perfect combination of sassy and fancy. I had my jewelry custom made by my Dixie Darling, and the turquoise necklace and earrings were the perfect addition to my look. I did my own makeup and decided on a bold red matte lip (MAC RiRi Woo with MAC Cherry lipliner) and a shimmery gold and bronze eye with winged black liner. I rock a bold lip look often, and this felt like me but fancier. Loren chose his wooden bowtie from Two Guys Bow Tie and paired it with a cuffed turquoise gingham button up, grey vest and slacks and grey Vans sneakers with turquoise detail. The wooden bowtie was the talk of the day and tied into the rural setting of the Hansey-Butler home in Ferndale, Washington.”
Their backyard wedding reception was full of family-made filipino food and other delicious entrees and desserts made by close friends and family members. The couples’ friend, Amber Darland, played a sweet set of her acoustic songs during the meal and a group of friends performed poetry. They played some dance music and laughed, hugged and celebrated with their community.
“What started out as a joke during the rehearsal became the best way we could have ended our wedding ceremony. I like to run and jump on Loren every once in a while just to see if he’ll catch me, so we were joking about doing that as the recessional. Loren and I demonstrated this for everyone during our rehearsal and they all said that we just had to do that for the real thing. So as Phillip Phillips’ “Home” began to play, Loren walked to the end of the aisle and I kicked off my bright floral heels and ran to him. Our guests were cheering and laughing and he caught me and twirled me as I jumped in his arms.”
“We found Jenny Jimenez by searching the internet for LGBTQ friendly wedding photographers. We loved that Jenny was so easy to be around, that she genuinely wanted to know our story and make us feel as comfortable as possible. We interviewed other photographers but knew immediately after meeting with Jenny that she was the right person. Jenny is the perfect balance of professional and familiar. And we loved even more that our pictures were absolutely stunning. Many friends and family said they were the best wedding photos they have ever seen.”
Photographer: Jenny Jimenez | Attire: I Do Bridal + Victoria’s Bridal + Wooden Bowties | Beauty: by bride, Marita (make-up artist) | Cake + Catering + Decorations + Flowers: family/friends | Entertainment – music / performances: Amber Darland | Jewellery: Your Darling Dixie | Officiant: Patch Avery | Venue: family home